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The blind spot effect : how to stop missing what's right in front of you / Kelly Boys.
Publication Information:
Boulder, Colorado : Sounds True, [2018]
Physical Description:
vii, 191 pages ; 23 cm
Attentional blink: what we miss and how we miss it -- You see it...but you don't see it: decoding the stories in our minds -- Shortcut to flow state: hacking family intuitions -- Choose your own adventures: discovering personalized core beliefs -- The full spectrum: welcoming emotional blind spots -- Love is blind: first impressions and falling in love -- Self-compassion...and the big reveal -- F*ck feedback: illuminating how others see us -- Trust your gut: uncovering your intuitional navigation system -- Happy trails: a concise guide to working with your blind spots -- Afterword: The biggest blind spot of all.


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Do you ever feel like you're experiencing your life at only a fraction of its true clarity and depth?
Are your days dominated by a single emotion such as fear, sadness, anger, or disappointment?
At work or in your personal life, do you find yourself facing similar relationship patterns or conflicts again and again?

From our earliest years, we all acquire blind spots in the way we perceive, feel, and think. Driven by our biology, life experiences, cultural messages, and physical environment, they profoundly affect us throughout our lives.

This informative and practical guide invites us to understand: how we get them, how to bring them to light, and how to work with that newfound awareness to improve our lives.
Here, author Kelly Boys presents emerging research from many fields of psychology and neuroscience, personal stories, and a wealth of hands-on exercises and practices to help us identify, welcome, and transform our own hidden domains.
Join her to explore:

What we miss and how we miss it Attentional blink --gaps in our sensory awareness and our astonishing potential to perceive more in each moment Decoding your unconscious stories--how they filter the truth and influence you Hacking your intuition--why our gut instincts are not always accurate, and ways to get it right more often The defended self --uncovering the core beliefs that shape your emotional landscape Using moments of crisis to reveal especially elusive blind spots Falling in love, "crushing," cheating, and wholehearted loving--shining a light into the wilderness of intimate relationships Three biases that sabotage our judgment and how to counter them Self-compassion , welcoming , and vulnerability --keys to clearer self-perception Flow states --becoming fully immersed in what you do without the filters that diminish your natural way of perceiving and being Seeing yourself as others see you--safely engaging with someone you trust to gain greater self-awareness Illuminating the biggest blind spot of all--the illusion of an isolated and separate self, and how to free ourselves from the traps it creates Chapter-by-chapter practices--somatic, contemplative, and mindfulness-based--for self-discovery and change

Once we recognize our blind spots, we can't un see them. We release ourselves from unnecessary suffering and begin to experience each moment more richly. With The Blind Spot Effect , you're invited to illuminate what is right in front of you and within you--for greater wonder, joy, and fulfillment.

Author Notes

Kelly Boys teaches teach companies, veterans, prison inmates, humanitarian workers, psychotherapists, and others in meditation and emotional intelligence. She directed the launch of a facilitator training for the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute, based on Google's neuroscience -based emotional intelligence and mindfulness program; created a Peace on Purpose program for the United Nations Foundation; and has trained frontline humanitarian workers in the Middle Past. Learn more at

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Publisher's Weekly Review

This worthwhile debut from Boys, who helped launch Google's "Search Inside Yourself" mindfulness program, lays out a self-help plan designed to address the personal "blind spots" that distort people's thinking. "We are all like Hiroo in some way, blindly defending something that does not need defending anymore," says Boys, referring to a Japanese intelligence officer who, stranded on an island in the Philippines after WWII, did not learn for decades that the war had ended. A blind spot can be a compulsion to be liked, a "recycled" or recurrent emotion like anxiety, or a feeling of unworthiness-any unconscious driver of self-destructive behaviors. The author draws on the work of prominent psychologists, such as Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky (the subjects of Michael Lewis's 2016 book The Undoing Project), and mindfulness teachers, such as Jon Kabat-Zinn, to discuss how readers can get to "home base"-a state of honesty with oneself and access to one's intuition. Boys's prose does not sparkle, but it is persuasive, and readers will appreciate the series of meditation practices provided. This book takes a simple idea and drives it home. (July) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. 1
1 Attentional Blink What We Miss and How We Miss Itp. 9
2 You See It ... but You Don't See It Decoding the Stories in Our Mindsp. 25
3 Shortcut to Flow State Hacking Faulty Intuitionsp. 51
4 Choose Your Own Adventure Discovering Personalized Core Beliefsp. 71
5 The Full Spectrum Welcoming Emotional Blind Spotsp. 85
6 Love Is Blind First Impressions and Falling in Lovep. 99
7 Self-Compassion ... and the Big Revealp. 123
8 F * ck Feedback Illuminating How Others See Usp. 139
9 Trust Your Gut Uncovering Your Intuitional Navigation Systemp. 153
10 Happy Trails A Concise Guide to Working with Your Blind Spotsp. 171
Afterword the Biggest Blind Spot of Allp. 177
Acknowledgmentsp. 183
Notesp. 185
About the Authorp. 191